A Monthly Column written by Kelly Livingstone, founder of atruckerswife.com, and
published in Truck News Magazine.
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My husband is a professional transport operator and I for one, am tired of all
the people out there that refer to them as ďjust truckersĒ. He went to school to
get his job. He has written or driven many tests and passed them to get where he
is today. He is responsible for a vehicle that weighs 80,000 lbs and is worth
more than some homes. I would love to see some of those people keep a log book
and do all the calculations to figure out whether or not you need to rest or can
continue to drive, I know it befuddles me. He is a responsible, clean, and
courteous driver and would stop to help others should he see someone in need.
I am so proud of my husband. He trucks for miles and miles to deliver things
people need! When I stop for even a split second to think about the things he
gives up in life, I canít help but think he is just an amazing person! My
husband gives up seeing his baby girl grow up, her first steps and even her
second birthday! He misses holidays, dinners at the table and even just a lot of
those nights watching a movie with his wife. He makes a decent income, but we
arenít rich. He eats at crazy times of the day and night and goodness knows what
heís eating. He showers in strange truck stops and sleeps in a bunk in a rest
stop. He drives that great big truck and a fifty three foot trailer and backs it
into places I would have trouble getting my own 4 wheel truck into.
I just want everyone to know that I am proud of my husband and ALL truckers who
keep the country moving and bring us our daily needs. Thank you from the bottom
of my heart and may the wind always be at your back door.
A PROUD Truckerís Wife
Dear A PROUD Truckerís Wife,
I was so touched to read your letter. Thank you so much for sharing that with
I found this on the Transport Canada website. "Of all freight traffic, something
approaching half makes its entire journey by truck, and most of the remainder
that is hauled by train, ship or aircraft relies on truck transport at one or
both ends of its trip." --Canada Transportation Act Review Panel, 2001
Thank you truckers!
Kudos on this column. I always enjoy reading. I am the opposite of most of your
readers. I am a truckerís husband. My wife drives and I stay at home. She was a
trucker lady when I met her and I am a home care nurse. We have been together
for almost six years now and other than the six months she took off after our
baby was born, she has been on the road for 2 weeks at a time. Itís not an easy
situation. Our son longs for her at night and I find it difficult to console him
sometimes. He is almost 3 now and he talks to her on the phone every day. The
problem is that he has become quite attached to his daycare Ďmomí. The last time
my wife came home there was an Ďopen houseí at the daycare. We showed up hoping
to surprise him and my wife walked in and he looked over at her and ran back to
the daycare worker. I know that this was extremely hard on my wife. She
completely loves our son and this is her job. It is really hard for people to
understand why she just doesnít come off the road. When a man does it, it just
doesnít seem as bad to others. She was born to drive, and deciding to have a
child was a thought out process. This isnít something we took lightly, but it
isnít as easy as we thought.
Any ideas how to make them connect?
A truckerís husband
Dear A truckerís husband,
How wonderful to hear from the other side of the coin. Your son bonding with the
daycare mom is completely normal, even for parents who work locally. A child
spends anywhere from 8-10 hours a day, 5 days a week with this caregiver. That
is a lot of time. Encourage your son to speak on the phone as often as possible
with his mom. Do things with him to get ready for momís homecoming and have a
photo of him and his mom in his room where he can see it. Anything that brings
the two of them together whether she is on the road or at home will help keep
that bond strong.
©2005 Kelly Livingstone
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Not just "a trucker".
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My man is missing me
Wanna talk trucker.
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